No More Mister Nice Guy

I meet with a great bunch of guys on Saturday morning. We sit around for a couple of hours and discuss issues of relevance, and this week we were discussing the book No More Mr. Nice Guys by Robert Glover PhD. These guys don't pul any punches, cause one pointed out to me, about my latest encounter, that, yes, I had compromised in an attempt for short term gains, but now it was time to accept what ever gains I had achieved, be a man about it and move on. We all have a tendency to dwell in the past rather than set our sites on the future.

I realized that I had been living my life as the "Mr. Nice Guy" and seeking my love and affection through the affirmation of those around me rather than through my own self needs and wants. I was always told not to be selfish, to be self-less. I am now at 57, realizing that I have lived my life, worrying what others think and letting others' opinions of me matter and not worrying about what my own opinion of myself matter to me.

I have had 57 years worth of relationships oriented towards other's needs. It's about time to have some time oriented towards my own.